Words of Advice from a Wayward Father

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Being a parent is a continual source of inspiration for songwriting, and while this song does not qualify as a factual account of my own parental experience, there are moments when a child gets your goat enough that you wish fervently that you were foot loose and child free once more. This led me to reflect on the messier side of parenting, and what might go through the mind of a man who leaves his child because of a dysfunctional relationship with his spouse. I feel, however difficult it might be, it is still necessary for us to see the humanity of those who perpetuate abuse. There are always reasons, though not excuses, for this, and like the wayward father protagonist in this song, we need to remember that we all make mistakes and long for forgiveness.

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Is it my place to tell you these failings that I have
That I hold inside me and I see in you as well?
A father’s hand can be safe but rough.
And a father’s command may never know when to say enough is enough.
I may be the first to break your heart
Like I was the first to hold you when it all fell apart.

I want to say that tomorrow won’t be just like today.
Everybody has to make their own mistakes.
Don’t be like me, too proud to build upon the ashes of the bridges
You burn down.

It’s not my place to tell you to believe in me or care
Since I’ve placed in your heart a weight you shouldn’t have to bear.
A father’s love should not wane or bend,
But a father’s pride can eat away inside and eclipse the good love intends.
Yes I damned myself because I broke your heart,
But I never sought to drag you through this hell and damn you too when it all fell apart.

I hope and pray that tomorrow won’t feel just like today.
Everybody has to make their own mistakes.
Don’t be like me, too proud to build upon the ashes of the bridges
You burn down. I hope you learn how
To forgive your old man.

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from Naked Despair, released December 1, 2013
t.k. bollinger – Voice, Guitar, Melodica.

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t.k. bollinger Melbourne, Australia

A connoisseur of dark moods and plaintive melodies, t.k. bollinger is an explorer on the road less travelled. His musical children are songs of contrite and emotionally challenged characters confessing their darkest fears and tortured realisations.
They speak of the usual things – love, abuse, neglect and the small triumphs and tiny truths that gleen in our day to day growth and survival.
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